Feeling the impact of self-criticism

People who are chronically self-critical often become numb to the effects of their self-criticism. Through closely attending to the emotional reaction to self-criticism, people can begin to feel the real impact of this way of relating to oneself. Doing chair work where the critical side is enacted can sometimes begin to elicit the emotional reactions … Read more

March 2015 Tool of the Month: The Self-Compassion Break

Each month we highlight some practical resources for therapists interested in compassion. We don’t go into great depth about what we find, but encourage you to check them out if you think they’re interesting. This month’s find: Self-Compassion Break from Kristin Neff. The self-compassion break exercise helps you and/or your client to develop a loving … Read more

March 2015 Research Update

Every month, we scour the scientific literature for interesting studies that have practical implications for therapists working with shame, self-criticism, or compassion. Below are a few of our favorites for this month:  History of Betrayal Trauma Predicts Feelings of Shame This is a new publication by Melissa along with betrayal trauma expert, Jennifer Freyd. We were … Read more

Review of empirical findings on shame, self-compassion, and acceptance and commitment therapy

We have a new paper out in the journal Current Opinion in Psychology about shame, self-criticism, stigma, and compassion in ACT. Five studies show ACT helps with shame and self-stigmaIn this paper, we reviewed the existing research demonstrating that Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help with shame and what is called self-stigma, or buying … Read more

April 2015 Compassion Tool of the Month: Compassionate Color Exercise

Each month we highlight some practical resources for therapists interested in compassion. We don’t go into great depth about what we find, but encourage you to check them out if you think they’re interesting. This Month’s Find: Compassionate Color Exercise Here is an exercise from The Compassionate Mind Foundation intended to foster a felt bodily … Read more

Noticing Compassion Daily Reflection

Research shows that behaviors that we track are likely to change as a result of self monitoring. This strategy can be used to develop more awareness of self-critical tendencies and foster daily experiences of self-compassion. We adapted Kristin Neff’s self-compassion scale to a daily format that asks people to reflect on their level of self-compassion once per day. … Read more

April 2015 Research Update

Every month, we scour the scientific literature for interesting studies that have practical implications for therapists working with shame, self-criticism, or compassion. Below are a few of our favorites for this month: New Short Scale for Measuring External Shame This is a study validating an abbreviated version of an existing external shame measure. The initial … Read more

May 2015 Compassion Tool of the Month – Shame psychoeducation handout

Each month we highlight some practical resources for therapists interested in compassion. We don’t go into great depth about what we find, but encourage you to check them out if you think they’re interesting. This Month’s Find: Shame psychoeducation handout Here is a handout we created for use with people experiencing high levels of shame, … Read more

February 2015 Research Update

Every month, we scour the scientific literature for interesting studies that have practical implications for therapists working with shame, self-criticism, or compassion. Below are a few of our favorites for this month:  A Brief Mindfulness Intervention Makes Compassionate Action More Likely This is a follow-up to a 2014 Psych Science paper demonstrating that mindfulness training increases compassionate … Read more

Eyes On Compassion

At our most recent monthly ACT peer consultation group meeting, a group member, Yael Schweitzer, led an exercise that fostered feelings of both discomfort and connection in group members. Although it wasn’t presented as a compassion exercise, I think it was. I wrote this Eyes on Compassion script based on my experience in the group. This is … Read more